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Help for Constant Sibling Fighting
and Arguing
Do your children frequently fight? Is it
getting out of control? If the answers are
yes, let's do something about it.
Identify what
leads up to the fighting. Does it begin with
one child teasing the other? If so nip it in
the bud. Tell the offender that teasing will
not be tolerated. Take swift action. The
teaser loses computer time or their Ipod for
the day. Make your children see you mean
business. Do not give second chances. This
will help you down the road. Let's say you
are in a busy airport. You do not have time
to take care of plane tickets and play
mediator to a fight. If you frequently give
second or third chances there is a good
chance the fight will continue longer than
if you don't. Your children know from past
experiences if you're serious or not. In the
end, the faster you can get things under
control the better it will be for all. Your
kids won't get wound up more and you won't
lose your temper.
If you can
identify why your children argue or fight
you are on your way to solving it, if you
choose. Do your children fight when they are
grumpy? Then take a moment to think about
when it is they get grumpy. Is it right
before lunch when they are hungry? Is it
after school when they are tuckered out? Or
is it the mornings after they have stayed up
late?
Ways to solve
fighting and arguing due to grumpiness. If
your children (toddlers) are grumpy because
they are hungry then don't delay daily
meals. If you can't help it because you're
in a store at least carry snacks to tide
your children over. For after school
grumpiness, have your children relax in
different rooms, or at least in separate
areas. Do not let them share a couch. This
is because even if you put them on separate
sides you might turn your back and find one
close to the other, annoying them. For
morning after a big night grumpiness, solve
it by keeping to a bed time. If it's a
special occasion and you choose to let your
children stay up late then you need to be
patient with them the next day. Remember it
was YOU who chose to let them stay up late.
You can be gentle but firm. "You need to
pull it together buddy." Also, have them
take a nap and/or go to bed early that
night.
In
conclusion, if your children fight over
food, toys, etc, take action early. Stop the
fighting quickly so it doesn't have time to
escalate. For your own sanity don't ignore
it until it's too late. If you have a child who has
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